Thursday, January 29, 2015

Boys and Texting: An Art


Whenever there is a guy that I am talking to it feels like every time, they like playing a game of how long it will take me to crack before I text them back again because they haven’t answered the previous text. Often this is what goes through my mind when I text someone and they choose to watch all the episodes of friends and then text me back:

1.      “Oh My God. He Probably thinks I’m weird, I am weird. Oh my gosh, Shaking my head.”



2.      “He’s probably busy”



3.      “He found someone better.”



4.      “I think I might have sounded to clingy”



5.      “Fuck. I scared him off, again”



6.      “He’s hot and he knows that, so he wants someone with a better face, why must I have this face?”



7.      “Obviously he lost his phone or got in a fight defending my honor."



Ultimately there are so many excuses I could come up with to say to myself but sometimes let’s get it straight: He’s just not that into you or he IS busy or he is human and he doesn’t know what to say/do. Guys have lives and sometimes those lives get in the way of texting and interrupt your very important conversation about hibernating bears (I was so nervous that someone would stop talking to me once, I did this, don’t judge me.) Sometimes it’s not that they are being mean and planning on making you want to tie a noose over your neck, it’s just that they really have something to do or they have something on their mind. When a person comes into your life and you end up coming into theirs for the first time, it is true, the first thing we usually do is text.
What we often forget is the fact that we haven’t been in their lives forever so who the hell knows what they’ve gone through or what they’re still going through, what classes their taking, what job they have, what marks a past relationship may have left on them? We don’t know and so therefore we can’t or at least we shouldn’t worry ourselves and get obsessive over why they might be taking a little or a long while to text us back. Go on with your life, don’t rush anything, especially a potential relationship. Good things take time and you know this because when a boy or girl finally texts you back, you get this feeling like you want to dance naked at a supermarket. It’ll be okay, hang in there baby.
Now, we have to acknowledge that there will be those times when a guy doesn’t text you back because he doesn’t want to. I know, none of us want to face this fact because none of us are not fabulous. We will always be fabulous but sometimes are fabulousness is not meant for the person of our interest at specific point of time. You have to be strong, you have to swallow your tears back and move on because honey it is not worth your time. This is just one guy out of the sea of guys that are out there. Don’t mistake yourself thinking that this guy might be the one, you’re only texting, geez. Be confident in yourself and know that you deserve happiness and you deserve someone who wants to talk to you and will talk to you. You deserve the world, we all do.
Last but not least, have you ever thought about the fact that he might be wondering what to say to you because he feels not good at communicating and that he’ll fuck it up. Give him time, he wants to impress you, he might even feel intimidated. Ultimately a guy will text you back if he wants to and you’ll text him back if you want to. Establish what you want, set your standards and don’t fret and try your best to not be a clingy bitch. It’ll happen if it is supposed to happen. Stay Flawless.

Xoxo,

Jacob

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